The Jerry Maguire myth…
(not the ‘Show me the money!’ part… the other one)
If you knew me during my High School/University years, you would probably know that I had a little bit of a crush on (totally in love with) Tom Cruise. Yep, I was the one with the life-size Jerry Maguire on my wall (along with velociraptors, Pulp Fiction posters, and picture of my friends).
Speaking out against Tom is really difficult for me, but I think it has to be done…
Because Jerry Maguire sold us lies!
You remember the magical moment at the end of the movie, right? Jerry bursts into the house looking for his wife, so that he could proclaim ‘You complete me.’
And since then, we have all been looking for a person to complete us and make us whole.
Plato wrote about Split-Aparts, basically the idea that 2 people share one soul, and that they spend their lives trying to find each other to become whole again. When I was first told about this, I thought it was beautiful and romantic.
But I don’t think that this is true either.
YOU are complete and whole. We just believe that we lose our connection with this and we forget. We are incredible Souls, spanning time and space, a culmination of every one of our lives, experiences, memories, and we are all-encompassing. But as human beings, we forget our connection to our divinity, to our source.
Rumi said: ‘The beauty you see in me is a reflection of you’, and
‘This is a subtle truth: Whatever you love, you are.’
What I have learned about love is that we always appreciate in others what we already possess in ourselves.
Loving another person is another exercise in loving ourselves.
Our partners and friends help us to recognise what we already embody. They connect us more fully with love, compassion, acceptance, and what we truly are as Divine beings.
If you are looking for Soul Mates, whether a partner or friends, consider the qualities that you appreciate in others, and allow them to grow and thrive within yourself.
Would you like to know how to recognise yourself as a whole and complete being, to connect with Soul and feel at home in your daily life, to know that it is possible to love yourself infinitely and allow others to do the same, that you are worthy and deserving of this on every level, and that you already know what it feels like to honour the being that you are and share this with others?
Say yes and receive! ♥
(P.S. Tom, if you are reading this, I still love you and didn’t mean any of it! Call me!)